C is for Custom Corset

When the Holidays roll around each year, the inevitable question arises of, "Mistress, what do you want for Christmas?" I usually direct those who ask this question to my wishlist.There are a variety of items on there, as well as a variety of price points. I AM sensitive to the financial situations of my slaves...

For those who know me better than the occasional session here and there, I expect, yes I said EXPECT, more. If you have taken it upon yourself to serve me, then pleasing me is a duty inside and outside the dungeon. I also expect gifts to take on a more creative turn. Shopping from the wishlist is fine some times, but it should not be used for the bulk of gift-giving. Why you say? Well if you are in communication with me on a regular basis, then you learn things about me. If you have been serving me for any length of time, then you will hear me discuss certain items that I have been lusting after for years. The other option is to ask me specific and pointed questions like, "Mistress, what is lacking in your fetish wardrobe that you have always wanted?" Finally, someone asked me that question and the results are pictured to the left.

I am now the recipient of a Dark Garden custom, leather corset. Yes, I already have two of their corsets, but they were off the rack ( thank you kevin from LI!!!) and the fit was good, but not perfect. I also have changed tastes since then and no longer crave an over-the-bust style. Now I have EXACTLY what I want, and the fit is amazing. It isn't too short, too long, or too ANYTHING. It is certainly going to become a staple of my wardrobe, despite my name being the VINYL Queen. A few folks have already been able to experience it in session and the reviews were marvelous.

Thus, to the admirer who made this all happen, my thanks go out to you. Of all the people who I encounter in the dungeon, you have been able to keep my happiness as your prime focus for the longest period of time. Others have tried, but there always seems to be an excuse for them to lose sight of what they should be striving for. You have never done that. I only hope that this corset bestows as much enjoyment back to you as it has to me already :).

VQ

C Is For ...

Last night was Danny from Reality Check TV's birthday bash. For those of you who don't know, I am their "Warning Girl" who appears at the beginning of each episode, warning viewers that their content is NOT appropriate for children. Thus, it was fitting that I show up at Danny's birthday party and give him some decent birthday spankings.

Danny is a great guy and we run into each other at various events we attend. He had asked me about attending his birthday party, but he had no idea I was going to be doing anything naughty once I arrived. I have some other friends in the adult business who wanted to give Danny something to remember, so we all showed up well after the festivities had already begun.

As we walked in, I was stunned to see a guy with blue fur singing on stage. I had to blink a couple of times as I couldn't believe my eyes. At first I thought it was a joke, but then I realized that this was NO joke. The word COOKIE kept being heard and then I realized, he was singing some of my old favorites from Sesame Street. Turns out the band Cookie Mongoloid was booked to play at Danny's party and we had arrived in the middle of their set. Once I began to listen to the words a bit more closely, I began to grin from ear to ear. How could you not after hearing, "Me lost me cookie in the mosh pit?" It was pure genius! Mind you, this band isn't a joke. They are true musicians.

The highlight of the set was "One Of These Things Is Not Like The Other," replete with trombone playing at specific intervals to make the title mean what it says. Years of watching Sesame Street as a child flashed through my head as I heard those familiar words. It seemed as if life had come full circle in this dark little club.

After Cooke Mongoloid finished their set, it was time for Danny to get his beating. His fellow Reality Check TV hosts got up on stage and called him up to give him his birthday wishes. I snuck up there too and before Danny could figure out what was happening, the crowd was egging me on to give him a few whacks with my paddle. Danny bent over and took it like a man for as long as he could. When he turned around and begged me to stop, I made him kiss my boots ( he was already on his knees at this point), and the punishment ended.

Happy Birthday Danny. It was a great party and thanks for introducing me to a new band. I will never think of Sesame Street the same again.

VQ

Another Reason Friends Don't Let Friends Drive Fords

I have been a long-time Chevy fan, as is evidenced by the vehicle I drive. I enjoy the Ford vs Chevy debate that has gone on for decades, and I can toss out the phrases that go along with it when necessary. However, yet ANOTHER reason as to why Chevy is superior to Ford has emerged. A fellow kinkster informed me today of an article regarding a Ford decision to pull ads from gay publications. I found this disturbing as the clout of the Christian Right and conservative "family" groups to influence business in the US is appalling to me. Why do they care if gay people buy Fords or where Ford advertises? Does it really matter? Do they think that means that gay orgies go on at Ford headquarters while they go to church? OR is this just a subversive effort by Chevy to gain more of the gay market share? If so, what a brilliant way to capitalize on the homophobia of Ford owners everywhere. Ford sells to f_gs.

I don't usually discuss "gay issues" in my public forums, but I am today for a variety of reasons. I suppose one of those reasons is that many of my clients make a huge deal of telling me, "Ya know, I'm not gay or anything." Why is that even applicable to BDSM or our session? Frankly I don't care what your sexual orientation is. I don't think that you're gay because you let a woman beat on you with long sticks, or makes you bark like a dog. I care about how you negotiate with me and conduct yourself during our session. I have also had clients visit San Francisco and make a HUGE deal about discussing "the gay population" with me. That they were really concerned that some how, a gay guy was going to hit on them or want to date them. I have news for you guys: gay men want NOTHING to do with middle-aged, out of shape, out of style, straight men. Gay men have some of the highest standards around for picking partners. Heterosexual women don't. Most heterosexual woman are so fucked in the head by something that Daddy did to her (or insert male relative here), that her self-esteem needs years of therapy to approach a reasonable level that makes her choose a guy who isn't a loser. Straight guys have it easy. There is ALWAYS going to be a woman out there who would rather be with a someone who treats her like garbage than be alone. Gay guys don't have that problem. They like men. They like hot men. Thus, the standard is much higher because appearance is ALWAYS an issue.
But I digress...

I would love to see a comparison of the buying power of Christian Fundamentalists/Evangelicals versus Gay People/Alternative Lifestyle Folks. The former might have larger numbers, but how many of their couples are HIGH dual wager earners? How many of their couples don't have any kids, nor want any? How many of their numbers are home owners in high cost of living states ( um, my people call those the BLUE STATES)? Gay people have financial clout. They buy stuff. Lots of it. Yes, Right Wing Christian folks buy stuff too, but they are usually spreading their resources around to a lot more family members.

Regarding the threat of a boycott: I'm not so sure exactly how well a boycott of Ford would be followed. Come on people. Let's think about this. I grew up in a rural community and I believe that the owner loyalty of a redneck and his truck brand can not be swayed--even if his church tells him to. If you are a Ford loyalist, you won't switch to Chevy, merely out of principle. Just like Windows users hear the evidence all the time about the superiority of the Mac OS, but they choose to stay with their PC boxes out of principle ( I HAD to get that in there!). Thus, I think that Ford didn't analyze the market threat of a boycott all that well. Who knows. Maybe I'm wrong. Maybe the thought of gay men tooling about in Ford F-150s is enough to make a Right-Winger switch to Chevy. If so, Chevy could jump on this band wagon and milk it for all it's worth.

In closing: I realize this entry isn't going to make me too many friends. I can hear the responses now from my various clients, "You weren't talking about me were you? I mean, I don't mind gay people, I just don't want them to bother me." "Do you really think I'm out of style?" "I didn't know that you really liked gay people." There, I've said what you're thinking. Don't say those things to me then. Instead, why don't you examine WHY you have to explain your feelings about another type of sexuality to ANYONE? It's perfectly fine to not want to participate in something, but it doesn't mean that the other way is wrong. You might have a really hard time wrapping your brain around two men being sexually intimate. Get over it. I have a hard time thinking about people reading the Bible as historical fact. Do I approach everyone I know by telling them that? No I don't. Also, I have news for you straight guys out there: most gay males are more man than you'll EVER be. Yup, it's a fact. I know a lot of gay guys who are more masculine, tougher, stronger, and have more sexual prowess ( that translates to they last longer and are better in bed) than the straight guys I've encountered. Gay men aren't all hair dressers or interior decorators ya know. Maybe you wish that you COULD live their lives of not having to deal with women in relationships. I don't know. Just figure it out so that you don't have to tell ME about it.

VQ